15 years ago, near the beginning of what has become one of my oldest and sweetest friendships, a 12-year old Enling wrote in my autograph book “New friends are silver, old friends are gold.” (I wonder if we’re still gold, and when we’ll be approaching platinum? :P)
Of course, all old friends were once new friends. And not all new friends stay to become old friends. But new and old, friends have been an extremely significant element in my life. Whether it is soul-baring sharing, or just having some simple laughs together, I have shared so much of my life with so many friends over the years, and have been deeply enriched by such sharing in return.
I am always touched by those unexpected moments when a friend generously gives me a glimpse into his or her heart. I am always humbled and grateful for such generosity, for the greatest gift we offer one another is the gift of self. And one of the most wonderful things is when we recognize each other as brother and sister in life, and for a moment let that recognition transcend the fearful defences we have erected.
To all my friends in Singapore and in Toronto, you guys have made me truly wealthy. For the laughs we’ve shared, as well as the tears we’ve caused each other to shed, I am infinitely grateful. Whether near or far, and whether we’re frequently in touch with each other or not, you are all my companions in life’s journey. I think of you guys a lot more than I tell you, and when I do, I always make a heartfelt wish that you are well.
You know that saying, “it’s better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all”? Well, I think where there has been genuine love, no matter how fleeting or seemingly insubstantial, a part of that person and that relationship will live on forever in you. Having said that, the stories of friendship in our lives continue to be written until the day we die, and maybe even beyond… for as someone very loving and wise once said, “death ends a life, not a relationship“.
Have a lovely Christmas break, and to all those vacationing, have a jolly good time! *BIG HUG*