Exam Fever

After a 5-year hiatus, Zibin’s back in school and it’s finals week. It’s been a long time, but some things are still the same. When he studies, it is so easy for him to get into the groove and to stay focused. I’ve always envied that about him. Even from Toronto, I can sense the […]

My Blinds

Woke up this morning and the shadows on my window blinds caught my attention. I’ve always loved the effect of light and shadows. It’s true what they say… you can find interesting subjects for photography practically anywhere and anytime. (There’s already been a few times in the last few weeks when I kicked myself for […]

Best of Both Worlds?

Screen pic of my MacBook after installing Windows XP Pro SP2 via Parallels Desktop I’ve installed Windows XP Pro SP2 on my MacBook now, courtesy of Parallels Desktop. So now I can run both Mac and Windows applications simultaneously without rebooting the computer. And if I put the virtual machine into full-screen mode, it looks […]

Wanting Wonka

Can you imagine waking up to the heavenly aroma of warm chocolate melting over the stove? That was the reality for Melissa and me this weekend… cos Wanting was trying out a chocolate truffle recipe in a magazine for a party she was going to. All that rich and amazing chocolate melting and then cooling, […]

成就 (林琼瑛)

亲爱的, 寄上刚才提起的”成就”。那是我前一阵子写的。愿与你共勉之。 永远爱你的妈 ************ 成就 什么是真正的“成就”? 个人在别人眼中的“价值” 与“重要性”? 别总是关注外人的眼光,一心一意地去争取外界的赏识与认同! 外界的评价 / 评论比自己的更重要吗? 假的“成就感”是很脆弱的。任何一个轻微的否定动作,就可以把它扼杀。。。长久这样下去,你就会陷入“自我困扰”的境地。所以千万别透过别人的眼光来检查自己,不要让别人决定你的“成就” 。 最了解你的莫过于你自己了。。。 “你心里真能肯定自己、相信自己;自己日子又过得快乐、充实。”那才是最重要,也是最真实的“成就感” ! 试问:赢得了全世界对你的认同和赞赏,而自己的内心却否定了你自己。。。 “成就感”何在?值得吗? 该问问自己追求的是什么?定好目标,再去“奋斗”。别到最后才发觉自己日月穷追不适的原来是“一阵风”,捉也捉不住。。。 等到人生尽头时,“两手空空”,才发觉一生的奋斗是徒劳无功的。。。那该是人生的悲哀。。。  想要从头开始,只恨岁月不饶人。。。 一切都已经来不及了。。。 æž—2006.10.17

One Heart to Another

My last post prompted another sister and friend to send a beautiful email. As usual, after responding, I found that my reply consisted of reflections that I would also like to share here. Enjoy! :) ************** Hi hi back! Thank you for sending me this email… I’m very touched that you’ve shared something so personal […]

Crossing Paths

I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve been surprised at how much others share in the same kind of struggles as I. Sometimes I meet someone in whom I recognize myself at an earlier stage of my journey. Sometimes, I meet another who is ahead of me on the same journey. What I […]