“When your friend speaks his mind you fear not the “nay” in your own mind, nor do you withhold the “ay.”
And when he is silent your heart ceases not to listen to his heart;
For without words, in friendship, all thoughts, all desires, all expectations are born and shared, with joy that is unacclaimed.”
In recent months, I’ve been so caught up with things that I haven’t been corresponding much with some dear friends. Needless to say, I haven’t forgotten you. And I like to think that our hearts never ceased to still listen to each other. I used to always be so concerned that you know that I am thinking of you and that you feel my care that I think I spent more time acting as a good friend rather than just being one.
I used to be more caught up with ensuring that you knew that I loved you rather than actually loving you. That’s because deep down I’ve always been afraid that you would leave me… that our friendship would lose its value in your eyes… that I would lose you.
But I have been learning… that loving you is ultimately the most important thing. And I’m learning, that loving you is different from talking to you, spending time with you, or even knowing the intimate details of what you’re going through in life. Loving you is playing the part I’m meant to in your life – no less, and no more. I can love you whether you know it or not, believe it or not, and whether you love me in return or not.
This revelation is so new to me. These sentiments are so foreign to what I have felt and believed for so long. And yet, they feel right at home in me.
“When you part from your friend, you grieve not;
For that which you love most in him may be clearer in his absence, as the mountain to the climber is clearer from the plain.
And let there be no purpose in friendship save the deepening of the spirit.”
Here’s to the deepening of our spirit!
Quotes from Gibran’s “The Prophet”