Category: Philosophical Musings

Zibin and I bought the classic series of 济公 and we have been enjoying it these past few days. Last time I watched the series, I enjoyed the catchy song, funny character and interesting stories about justice and kindness. This time around, I was deeply impressed by something that had escaped me previously. Ji Gong’s […]

To my kindred… those who tend to speak rather than not *grin*… You and I love words. We love how they sound in our heads, and we love even better how they sound when we bring them forth in speech to our friends. We believe in the power of words to inspire, to heal, to […]

A post inspired by a recent conversation with a friend and dedicated to those in psychological pain: How many of us are aware of what forces are shaping our identity? It’s always difficult to hear criticism, especially from those we love. When we get a glimpse of ourselves from others’ disapproving or disappointed eyes, it […]

You know you’ve found a keeper when: He wakes up more than an hour earlier than he normally does to have coffee and a morning chat with your jet-lagged brother. He makes a simple board game side-splittingly funny for your entire family with his corny antics and doesn’t care when he loses. Your mother confides […]

It’s 2007. There’s one thing I missed about crossing over to a new year, and that’s writing in my journal. See, since I started keeping a diary when I was about 9 years old, I always made an entry on the 31st of December no matter how infrequently I had journaled during the year. There’s […]

亲爱的， 寄上刚才提起的”成就”。那是我前一阵子写的。愿与你共勉之。 永远爱你的妈 ************ 成就 什么是真正的“成就”？ 个人在别人眼中的“价值” 与“重要性”？ 别总是关注外人的眼光，一心一意地去争取外界的赏识与认同！ 外界的评价 / 评论比自己的更重要吗？ 假的“成就感”是很脆弱的。任何一个轻微的否定动作，就可以把它扼杀。。。长久这样下去，你就会陷入“自我困扰”的境地。所以千万别透过别人的眼光来检查自己，不要让别人决定你的“成就” 。 最了解你的莫过于你自己了。。。 “你心里真能肯定自己、相信自己；自己日子又过得快乐、充实。”那才是最重要，也是最真实的“成就感” ！ 试问：赢得了全世界对你的认同和赞赏，而自己的内心却否定了你自己。。。　“成就感”何在？值得吗？ 该问问自己追求的是什么？定好目标，再去“奋斗”。别到最后才发觉自己日月穷追不适的原来是“一阵风”，捉也捉不住。。。 等到人生尽头时，“两手空空”，才发觉一生的奋斗是徒劳无功的。。。那该是人生的悲哀。。。　 想要从头开始，只恨岁月不饶人。。。 一切都已经来不及了。。。 æž—2006.10.17