As a married Catholic lay woman, it is perhaps surprising (not least to me) that my personal vocation and the mission I have with my husband does not include children of our own. The moment people I meet know I am married, it is almost always followed up with the question, “Do you have children?” […]
Category: Love & Marriage
My 10th Anniversary Reflection
When I was little, I loved stories of soul deep friendship and triumphant romances, and I yearned to find a someone who would love me with as much abandon as I would love him. Ironically, although I was such a romantic, I was very realistic about marriage. Growing up, I have observed in the people […]
Year 9: Learning to love in hard times
This year as we crossed into our wedding anniversary, we are both tired and worn out. Initial plans for a home-cooked dinner yesterday was tanked when he was held back due to an emergency meeting at work. When he came home past 11pm, he was so exhausted that instead of taking out the dinner […]
As You will, Lord
We are 8 years into our marriage now. Are we happy? Yes. Are we contented? No. We are happy because we are indeed deeply loved by God and each other and we are rich in the love of family and friends. We are filled with gratitude every night when we do our examen of consciousness. […]
Finding God in Housework
When I was growing up, there was always a domestic helper at home to help with the chores. But in the 9 years I lived abroad and the 8 years that I have been married, I have cleaned and kept my own home, and I hope to continue to do so for as long as I can. […]
5 Principle Foundations of a Happy Marriage (in progress!)
From the time I was very young, I have been told that it is very important to keep Christ in the center of my relationships. But the thing was, nobody ever really taught me how to do that. I have heard many times over statements like, “Make sure God is in the center of your relationship,” or […]
The man I married
I was walking back in to Starbucks after a bathroom break when I was greeted by this view. I felt my heart swell with gratitude and love all in an instant, and I just had to pause to contemplate how blessed I am. Not only did I marry my best friend, I had married a […]
The 2 stages of love
“In any love-story there are usually two stages or phases. There is the initial stage, where love is expressed by the giving of gifts, especially the gift of self. Then there comes a time when it is no longer enough to give gifts to the beloved, but one has to be ready to suffer for […]
The God of Stumbles and Falls
You know the popular question that people have, “If God is a loving God, why does He allow suffering?” Well, I thought I had gone past asking that question until recently when I discovered that I am still struggling with it in a different form. The question I ask is, “If God loves His children so much, […]
Painted by God’s Love
My ardent Lover pursued me. He lured away my greatest attachment so that I would cleave to Him more purely. Then He showered me with extravagant and unexpected gifts that proclaimed His love for me: A three-fold assurance from a near stranger, an invitation to quality time from a dear friend, a beloved face in […]